Recently my timeline was flooded with images of grown men in red dresses walking/running the streets of New Orleans. I must admit, my immediate reaction was one of extreme repulsion as it contradicted everything I believed to be true about masculinity and also brought to my awareness the hyperfeminization, subliminal emasculation and psychological castration of … Continue reading
As gay men, we have been deceived, tricked into believing that our attractions define who we are. We have made lust our identity and in doing so, have created cycles of destruction within our very own bloodstreams. Truth be told “the life” will never tell you that you are spoiling your legacy with every drop … Continue reading
I like many people of my generation work in a very toxic work environment. This is not my first time working in an extremely toxic work environment and by the looks of the current job market, it probably won’t be my last! Despite working in a variety of settings, I have noticed similar patterns that … Continue reading
Last week my sister and I were having a conversation about the multitude of life stressors that we both have been experiencing lately as a result of living this thing we call life. Mid-way through the conversation, she spouts off a litany of current stressors she is experiencing. In her laundry list of stressors, I … Continue reading
“The less my hope, the hotter my love”. -Terrance, Roman playwright 195-159 B.C. For many of us, rejection hurts. It is a pain we avoid at all costs. However, for some of us, rejection incites our desire to try harder, reach farther, extend ourselves to the point of no return. Like the proverbial moth to … Continue reading
After a recent conversation with my sister, I decided to examine my dating history to look for patterns, similarities, things that each of my ex’s had in common that ultimately contributed to the demise of our relationship(s). After unpacking this semi-exhaustive list of suitors, I came to the conclusion that for most of my adult … Continue reading
My father officially left me when I was three years old. Drugs were his occupation and metaphorically speaking, he was late for his shift. My father was a man of tilted imagination meaning he opted to chase dragons instead of chase his dreams. I was told by my mother that my father was sexually molested … Continue reading
2023 SAFEWORDS: Flourish, Abundance, Replace, Renew, Growth, Adventure 2022 was a peaceful year for me. I did a couple of things this year: I traveled to San Francisco and Oakland California in December 2022. I made a couple of brief city excursions in the summer and did a couple of meetups. My goal was to … Continue reading
Question: How do you know when to end a friendship? Answer: When you get the sneaking suspicion that it never really began. Many of our friendships are in trouble. Many have already made the resolve not to take certain friendships into 2023. Many are currently contemplating whether or not they want to continue to remain … Continue reading
“No More Water, The Fire Next Time” -Old Black Spiritual I am tired of trying to explain to white people why pain hurts. It is only when they make an emotional connection with black pain will they be motivated to change. We as black people have been strangers in a land that we helped to … Continue reading
Luis Speaks 